A child should always say what’s true, And speak when he is spoken to, And behave mannerly at table, At least as far as he is able. By Robert Louis Stevenson
Dining etiquette is an important part of our social skills. To eat in a way that is dignified, temperate and concerned for the needs of those at table with us is the mark of a true Christian lady or gentleman. The following are the norms of our culture that all children should learn and practice: 1. Sit and stay seated during the duration of the meal unless there is a need to be excused. (bathroom, to retrieve something missing from the table, etc.). Face forward, sit straight and keep your elbows and arms off the table. Do not tip your chair, wriggle around in your seat or move in a way that can jostle the person seated next to you. 2. Use your fork, knife and spoon to eat. Never use your fingers unless the food is to be eaten in this manner. 3. Place your napkin in your lap to catch any spills or crumbs. Use your napkin to wipe your mouth. Do not use your clothes or hands to wipe your mouth. Do not lick your fingers. 4. Take small bites and do not fill your mouth so that your cheeks are full and it is difficult to chew. 5. Chew quietly with your mouth closed. 6. Do not eat quickly. Chew slowly and carefully so that you are not swallowing large mouthfuls. 7. If you are being served, graciously accept whatever is placed on your plate. Refrain from making negative comments about the food, particularly if it is not agreeable to you. Taste everything and try to finish everything on your plate. 8. If a meal is served buffet style, take a little of what is being offered so that there is enough for everyone. It is better to start with small amounts and finish this, then you can go back for more after everyone has helped themselves. 9. When asking for something on the table say “please” and address the person you are asking. For example, “Michael, please pass the salt.” After it is passed to you say, “Thank you.” Do not reach over someone. 10. When eating together make sure everyone has been served and is ready to eat before you begin eating. 11. Do not burp, make rude noises, swallow or sip loudly. If this is done accidently, say “Excuse me.” 12. Do not yell, argue, play or rough-house at the table. Mealtimes are a time to enjoy pleasant conversation. We feed our bodies, but it is also a time to feed our souls with love and friendship. 13. Wait until most people have finished to be excused from the table. When doing so, push your chair out quietly, stand up behind it and say, “Thank you for dinner (breakfast or lunch).”, and then asked to be excused from the table. Take your plate and silverware and bring them to the kitchen. 14. Phones have invaded every aspect of our lives. These devices should not be allowed at the table during meals. We should be enjoying a meal together and this is not possible when your eyes and thoughts are not on those at table with you.